The Age Gap and Why We Waited For Our Third

Many of you probably already read this piece last week
when it was featured on Things I Can’t Say.
It got such a great response, and I am grateful to Shell for letting me be a feature!
Seeing as I also use this blog to keep a record of my girls, I wanted to post it here too:

As a parent of three girls I get some run of the mill questions and comments:
“Are you going to try for a boy?”
“Wait until their teenagers!” *insert crazy laugh*
“Are you going to try for a boy?”
“That’s a lot of weddings! Cha-ching!”
“Are you going to try for boy?”
And, “Why did you wait so long for your 3rd?”

Here is the run down.
There are two years between my older girls.
Then are seven years between my oldest and youngest.
And being were all not math geniuses up in here (me, oh me!!!), that makes five years between my middle and youngest.
Why the gap?

Let’s just say my second child is a real doozy. She is a ball of energy that has tested my patience, made me cry, and truly brought out my creative side. For example;

When she started taking her diaper off at a very young age I had to actually start duct taping it on.

When she climbed out of crib way before I was prepared I had to install a crib tent. AKA a full on crib prison contraption.

When she kept removing clothes at bed time I took those full body suit PJ’s, cut the feet off, turned them backwards, and zipped her up. She never escaped from those. This has been one of my greatest outsmarting a child accomplishments to date.

Then she dropped taking naps not long after turning two.
She has always ran places. Not walked. Ran!

She is a climber. She has climbed everything in our house that is even remotely scalable. And because of that, she is a faller.

The worst example of this is at one and a half she feel and it resulted in a fingertip loss and a very frantic trip to the ER.

She is so rough when she plays most of her clothes become hole ridden and ruined.

She has no fear, and as a result she scares me to death.

While these traits make parents like me weak in the knees, prone to high consumption of alcoholic beverages, and a victim of sleepless nights they also have a very positive side.
She is the most determined, tough little girl I know. She doesn’t take crap from anyone. She loves hard, plays hard, tries new things, doesn’t give up, and leaves me amazed at what she can accomplish.
She learned to ride a bike with no training wheels at age three.
She performs stunts that terrify me.
She keeps up with kids twice her size.
She isn’t scared to try. Which is something I envy and hope she holds on to for the rest of her life.

So to answer your question, why did we wait five years? We waited because our second one kept us so busy.
Busy running after her.
Busy being amazed.
Busy loving her.
Her ambition is what I know is going to make her life incredible.
I just hope I can keep up.

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  1. says

    I love this!!! People are forever asking us when baby #2 is coming. Firstly, it really is none of their business, and secondly, we are so busy loving on baby #1 (who just turned 2 today) that we are happy right now. Yes, we will start trying again, but right now, we are loving what we have. Busy, like you said.

    Thanks for sharing your post. And thanks for linking up with us!

  2. says

    There is one in every crowd – love your story. My parents used to say that if my younger brother and I had been the first two, there would have only been two. Funny how that works out. Great pictures and 3 girls is awesome.

  3. says

    Love this! She sounds a lot like me as a kid (-:
    My sister and I are 7 years apart – no middle kid. My mom says they had me b/c she was such an only child at 6 they decided a little sibling would be the best way to cure that!

  4. says

    Ahh your three little girls are absolutely gorgeous. I always wanted three girls (not that I am sad I had my son too) I love him to pieces. But in my mind I always had three girls. Sounds like you have an amazing dynamic to your lovely family. I am hoping to someday add a third to ours too. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me and I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round. #sharewithme

  5. Anonymous says

    Thanks for this blog. As a mom of 3 boys with 2 yrs and then 4 yrs difference, this sounds very familiar. Especially from my in-laws!!! Every visit, what a shame you don’t have a girl 🙂 Now that my youngest is 9, the comments have stopped and I can keep enjoying my 3 wonderful boys.

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